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When Caring Ends

Looking after someone may be a large part of your life, but it is inevitable that your caring role will change over time.

This may be because the person you cared for has recovered and no longer needs care, or because they can no longer be cared for at home, or because they have died.

Whatever your situation, it is important to realise that you are not alone. It will be difficult, but you can find help and support.

This section is for carers who are experiencing significant change in their lives. It suggests steps you can take to help you through each situation.

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I Am Here: And What Now?

Ros Capper has written And What Now? for those who are rebuilding after a major life change. Following is an extract from her book for other people facing life-altering challenges!


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Body Art: Lasting Memorials in Glass

PeterViesnikAuckland glassblower Peter Viesnik (left) creates lasting memories of loved ones. His eye-catching glass crucibles give new meaning to the ad jingle “thousands of luminous spheres”.

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Bereavement Bouquets

BouquetWhen ordering funeral flowers or a plant for a grieving person, Whitney from Flowers on Featherston recommends blooms and foliage in creams, whites, and greens. If you favour colourful blooms, stick to pale pink, mauve, or yellow. 

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Supporting a Friend Through Tough Times

SupportingAFriendHow can a young person can help a friend or family member who is going through a difficult life situation? 

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A Dad's Story: Helping Kids Adjust to Grief and Change

HeartSprinklesAfter caring for wife Kathryn at home for several years, Ian Wilson of Taumarunui reluctantly accepted the need for residential care. Ian shares his advice for other couples adjusting to this big change, and how to support grieving children. 

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Carer Story: Saying Goodbye To Leona

riverStonesBy Elizabeth Paske, Mary Potter Clinical Manager 

Leona and I were closer than sisters. We'd gone through all kinds of major events together: deaths, divorces, kids, job changes ... life. Then Leona was diagnosed with breast cancer. She was only 44.

It spread to her lungs, liver, and brain.

Bouts of chemotherapy brought intermittent periods of life with some quality but, when Leona was 54, the cancer took over.

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Advice: Talking to Children After a Tragic Event

If a traumatic, scary event takes place, even miles away or far on the other side of the world, today’s technology and media can bring it right into a child’s home, and, in graphic detail. For some children, this can be extremely distressing. They may react in a wide range of ways to the anxiety, fears or distress the event may cause them. Every child is different.

Most children’s key concern usually is: Will this happen to me - or to people that I know and care about? This question lets you know what they need the most – a sense of safety and reassurance.

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Support For Families With Cancer

skylightCoverSkylight (a national charitable trust) has produced a helpful brochure specifically for families challenged by cancer. 

This brochure outlines the various ways that skylight can support patients, their families, carers, and friends.

Their sources of help include:

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Grief + Loss Resources from Skylight

Skylight is a charitable trust that offers a wide range of services including counselling to support those facing tough times of change, loss, trauma and grief, whatever the cause, and whatever their age.

The organisation also equips, trains and supports those wanting to assist them, such as friends, carers, and family members, community volunteers, and professionals.

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End of Life Planning


Making your own end of life arrangements provides peace of mind for you and for your family.

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How Carers NZ can help

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